Has Isolation Sneaked Up On You?

If you’ve been reading along this month, you know I’m talking about isolation and how it keeps us from getting what we want. It steals our time & energy - and then we don't move forward.

We hide instead!

It’s easy to get sucked into the isolation vortex because we don’t notice it’s happening.

Let’s go back to my ski widow weekends: on paper, the fact that my husband takes my kid and leaves all day Saturday and all day Sunday sounds like an absolute DREAM, right?

I tell other women about this and their eyes light up with envy. They say, “Ooooohhhh. I’d kill for that much time alone!”

And yeah - it’s GREAT! Until it isn’t. Until I’ve depleted my energy by just sitting, overworking, or wasting time!

I take it too far, and last year I didn’t notice until I was in a pretty dark, sad, and lonely place.

When I noticed, I had to be real. Here are the 3 questions I asked myself:

1. What’s the situation - really? I’m not going to ask them to stop skiing. They love it and it’s great bonding for the two of them. They’re happy. That’s not changing. Nor do I want it to.
2. Where am I screwing myself over - really? I’ve got to stop overworking. Working can no longer be my default, and I’ve got to learn how to relax, have more fun, and take on challenges that make me uncomfortable.
3. What action am I willing to take - really? I need an action plan: what do I want to do on the weekends so I don’t feel sorry for myself, being lonely, and overworking to compensate?

I learned to implement a few tricks to help me connect, like scheduling time with a friend each weekend, masterminding with colleagues, and reaching out to potential connections for coffee.

Sometimes I take myself to the movies. Or out to lunch. Or out for a walk, to a yoga workshop, or to get a massage.

I consistently put these on my calendar as a repeating item so I remember to do them.

You can do these things too - if you decide that isolation is keeping you stuck somehow.

Are you ready to get real? Ask yourself the same 3 questions I asked myself:

1. What’s the situation - really? Do you have control over it? How is it serving - or not serving you? What would you LIKE to feel & think about this situation? Be honest.
2. Where am I screwing myself over - really? What are your thoughts about it? What DO you have control over? Where are you sabotaging yourself? What would you LIKE to feel & think about where you’re screwing yourself over?
3. What action am I willing to take - really? Notice that word WILLING. What are you really willing TO DO to move out of sabotage & disconnection and into action. How can you move toward your goal?

Remember you don’t have to have it all figured out or do all the pieces of it right away.

You might not be able to see the whole path, but you know what your next step is.

Are you doing that?

If that’s not enough, it’s time to connect with someone who can help guide you where you want to go.

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