I feel like an IDIOT.
I’m sure no one else in my place would have such a hard time, but I’m about to LOSE IT.
Rain’s pouring into my hair & down my face - which is driving me freaking crazy.
My cheery bright blue down coat is now soaked - an albatross, weighing me down.
I’m also starting to physically overheat, causing me to panic. I hate these intense hot flashes that take over my body.
The map I’m “reading” is in English, but it may as well be Russian - I can’t make out where I’m supposed to go to meet our tour bus.
Obviously this is no emergency, but I’m about to spiral into anxiety. I’m frustrated -
and frankly, I’m tired & cranky from pushing my 12-year-old around London in the wheelchair we brought to accommodate the injury he got last week.
I begin a full-on mental meltdown. Frustrated doesn’t even begin to cover how I feel - I’m inexplicably angry & irritated with this...
It was the perfect storm - one of those crazy years Christine could easily disappear inside of.
In the next years’ time, one daughter would get married. The other would graduate high school. And a huge interstate move was coming her way.
She knew herself well enough to know that business-as-usual meant she’d be taking care of everyone else’s BIG needs.
Christine sat across from me & said, “I don't want to be sitting here at this time next year wondering what’s next FOR ME.”
I swear, I almost cried for her because I knew she was about to have an EPIC year!
The challenge was to help this Over-Giver take care of a wedding, college entrance, graduation, a big move -
while taking care of her own dream!
Her dream? To launch a podcast.
Was she ready? Hell no.
Did she know HOW? OMG - Nope!
But, she implemented rule #1 of goal-getting: Start before you are ready!
At first, she had so much guilt. Long habits of over-giving...
Sometimes the things that affect our business, don’t have anything to do with the business itself.
It has to do with our own internal struggles that we deal with on a day to day basis.
It’s difficult to admit but…
Sounds a little out there, but let me explain.
I was having a conversation with a friend of mine about my brilliant friend Alice Patterson and how she explained to me how photos can really affect your branding.
If you’ve been around awhile, you’ve seen her work on my social media feeds, and blogs.
She doesn’t amazing work and you should definitely reach out to her because she not only captures great images, but also helps you to come out of your shell.
That’s what she did for me.
In the beginning, I would only fill my feeds with headshots occasionally and images of quotes or random things, trying to gain traction and create connection.
But that’s not how it’s done.
Do you ever feel like you can’t put your stuff out there because it’s not 100% your idea?
With all the content that’s out there, it’s easy to see why getting hung up on being 100% original all the time can freeze us in the moment.
Whether you’re an entrepreneur or not, we are all constantly learning.
Pulling a bit of information from here.
Taking a little tidbit of knowledge from over here.
Putting a slight spin on a process we learned somewhere else.
At the end of it all, you end up with something that works for you in a way that the “original” idea may not have or didn’t at all.
I realized that I’m a great “synthesizer” or something that is able to take a bunch of different things and make them my own. I’m great at taking tons of different ideas, stripping them down, and simplifying them in a way that makes them new or effective for the challenge that I'm faced with.
Jack sat at the table, incredibly agitated. He’d seen a man across the dining room of the restaurant and was upset by him.
The man, an older man - well into his 70s - was having a bottle of wine, eating alone.
His solitude made Jack sad, so he created a story that the man was awaiting a dinner partner. It quickly became clear that the gentleman was waiting for no one.
He’d taken himself to dinner.
This rubbed Jack’s soul the wrong way, and the more Jack watched the man, the more upset he got.
He wanted to connect with the man. Let him know that he’d been seen, that he mattered.
“I want to talk to him, but I don’t know HOW. What would be OK to do?”
Ah, the HOW. We all struggle with the right thing to do and HOW to do it.
Like there’s a prescription. Or a recipe to follow. And if we don’t have our hands on it, we don’t take action.
The more Jack didn’t take action, the more upset and physically uncomfortable he got,...
Annie & I had about 7 minutes left on our call back in September when I asked about her marketing plan for the holiday season.
She groaned & said she hadn’t thought about it.
I said, “Let’s bang it out now. We can hammer out all 10 weeks of content topics & a schedule.”
She was doubtful, but 7 minutes later, she had an entire plan laid out in front of her. She breathed a sigh of relief…
And I’ve watched her emails (I’m on her list) roll in every week without fail. She doesn’t have to think about it - she just has to work the plan.
BUT!! And it’s a big but …
She’s a high-level creative who finds planning V E R Y challenging. So planning is usually the first thing to go.
But when she has a plan…
And works the plan…
She gets to have a LIFE. And a business that thrives.
My clients get to choose:
I’ve shared a damaging habit keeping me from what I want: asking permission.
This week, I’ve got another terrible habit to share - kind of a sister habit.
What is it?
Constantly looking to everyone else as an expert.
Asking their input, gathering their opinions, and seeing if they gave me “the go-ahead.”
It’s a form of waiting for permission - a sneaky way of keeping yourself from moving forward & making what you want real.
Doing this, we overlook our own capabilities because we just don’t trust ourselves.
We’re more likely to trust others because they’ve got more training, more experience, or both…
Here’s how I’ve sabotaged myself in this way:
My husband has been running businesses for more than 30 years. He’s got an advanced degree and has taken HUNDREDS from businesses idea to start-up to scale.
He’s generous with knowledge & advice;...
It doesn’t matter how long we’ve been in business, there is something that keeps us stuck.
Something that overwhelms us.
Something that we don’t feel we do well.
And I’m not immune to this.
When I was making the transition from teacher to a business owner, I was overwhelmed by impostor syndrome.
During my first business, I would feel overwhelmed by marketing.
I would learn everything I could, but then never implement what I learned because I was too scared of failing.
At the beginning of this venture, I would struggle with pricing and not feeling secure in charging my worth.
I’ve been spinning my whole career!
I watch my clients do the same thing! Whether it’s feeling they don’t know enough, not knowing how to speak to their audience, or feeling that now isn’t the time to start a business.
You can learn more about my journey in the video below but I'd love to hear more about...
I recently went to the coast to attend the wedding of my friend.
And during that wedding, I remembered every tiny step she had planned to make her vision come to life.
It reminded me that sometimes we don’t give ourselves the grace to know that it can take a long time to get to where we want to go.
It’s in the details where things come to life and create the big dream we want to put out into the world.
Sometimes it’s a little fuzzy what this vision is.
Sometimes it’s really clear.
Still, hold it in your mind but it’s the tiny details you chip away at every day are what bring it to life.
The vision is vital, but DAMN it’s the details that get you there...
Instead of chasing your vision, here’s how you can bring it to life:
I’m offering workshops coming up soon, that will help you get clear on how to make your life and business easier.
I’m not selling you anything or looking for you to buy anything.
I just want to help YOU...
Being a solopreneur, you have to wear all the hats.
You take care of one thing and then another thing shows up.
It doesn’t matter if you get one thing done, you end up having another thing show up right after.
One great example of this is when you’re marketing your business on social media, you think you need to be on ALL the platforms.
But there are so many social media outlets!
You can’t just use all of the same content or it’s not going to work, and if you’re the only one creating that content yourself will end up exhausted.
Another is when you sit down to think about who your business is helping, your list well...everyone!
You want to cater to as many people as possible, thinking this will be the way your business will succeed and that it will bring you the most personal satisfaction.
This kind of mentality of constantly playing Whack-A-Mole is going to cause you burnout.
When you’re trying to...