I Don't Want To Be Annoying

‘That is SO annoying.’

^^This was my brilliant commentary on any situation. 

The phrase followed me everywhere as a default thought.

• The co-worker obsessing about her on-again/off-again relationship with her partner? So annoying!
• The sticky SHIFT key on my keyboard? So annoying!
• The noisy Blue Jay waking us up at 5:15am on summer weekends? Annoying!

John said to me, “You use this word annoying a lot, Jen. Does everything really annoy you that much?

Yes, John. YES IT DOES>

Things are annoying! Can’t you see that??

He didn’t. And couldn’t wrap his head around why I did.

I was BORN to see things as annoying - also irritating, frustrating, & bothersome.

• The co-worker obsessing about her on-again/off-again relationship with her partner? So annoying!
• The sticky SHIFT key on my keyboard? So annoying!
• The noisy Blue Jay waking us up at 5:15am on summer weekends? Annoying!

Commenting on it aloud made me feel like I was doing something about a situation.

I’ve since learned my brain is oriented to see the world as full of problems.

(I’m a ONE on the enneagram - if that means anything to you.)

It means I come into a room hard-wired to notice what’s wrong, then set about to fix it!

Seeing everything as annoying continued to train my brain to prefer my default setting of “What’s wrong here?”

Realizing that my hubs did not have this same world-view was a big clue that maybe there was another way of thinking. Living. BEing.

Hmph. DAMMIT, John.

Then I started teaching a college class about how to be successful & learned a tool called, “Stop complaining.”

WHAAAT? I wasn’t complaining! I was SEEING things as they really are!

When you’re teaching a class, you’re also TAKING the class -

And I had the unpleasant realization that I was a complainer. 

Long story short: turns out, you can change your brain.

“That’s so frickin’ annoying” is not default mode thinking for me anymore, which is good news because…

Entrepreneurs can be ‘annoying’.

• We have to say the same thing 17 times in 17 different ways.
• Share & repeat offers & benefits of working with us.
• Ask people for feedback & reviews to get social proof.

For an entrepreneur, an orientation to seeing ‘what’s wrong’ can keep you from putting yourself out there.

What if someone finds it annoying?

Well, of course, someone will find it annoying! We are humans. We can think things are annoying!

That’s why - If you found my recent set of blogs, podcasts, & social posts to promote my launch as annoying - I get it.

I tried to make them entertaining, useful, & valuable - even if you weren’t buying or interested in the workshop I offered.

But maybe you were annoyed anyway!

I understand. Truly.

All of this is to say,

Thank you for being here. For reading my words.

I’m so glad you’re here. I love knowing you’re part of my virtual community - someone interested in change, growth, & success!

Here’s a gift for you:  

As an entrepreneur, you know how vital social proof is…

So I created a guide - a step-by-step way to request testimonials & reviews.

Without being annoying!!

Or feeling pushy & irritating!

Without feeling uncomfortable.

Social proof is gold.

 It tells anyone considering working with you, “She’s amazing because she got me XYZ result!”

All anyone wants is results, my friend.

Take it. use it. let me know what you think of it.

And then take some damn time off for yourself!

Xo, Jen

PS: Think it’s annoying to get social proof? Reviews & testimonials don’t have to be painful. Download this guide & get my system to easily request ‘em!