How she knew her marriage was over Oct 23, 2018

A friend had been hanging on to her lifeless, lonely marriage for a while. For lots of reasons.

She was so unhappy – so was her hubs.

I asked, “Where were you with this a year ago?”

She stared at me: “Exactly where I am now.”

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My superpower is NOT mental masturbation Oct 23, 2018

For years, I had a low sense of worth in the workplace.

What was I good at? What was my “special sauce”? What was my Superpower?

I was constantly intimidated by the visionaries in my midst.

You know the type: the people who think big, original thoughts.

They ask, “What...

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Three steps to deal with the piano that just fell on your head Oct 23, 2018

I watched the blood bubble form on my right index finger. Time slowed down.

Should I throw the needle away and pretend none of this happened?

Go to Public Safety and report the incident?

The Universe has a way of whispering to us, tapping us on our shoulders,...

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Have you hit a wall? Oct 23, 2018

She is a force of nature. Writing a book. Building her business. Developing her community.

Her job? She helps women discover their voice and step into leadership.

She is a shark: moving constantly and getting stuff D.O.N.E.

Her energy is endless. Others marvel at...

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The time-mastery strategies my clients love to hate Oct 23, 2018

She looked at me sadly. She was frazzled, scattered, chaotic, tired, overwhelmed, frustrated.

It was Session 3, and there was disappointment in her eyes.

She hired me to help her “get her sh*t together”.

Like many clients, time was her worst enemy &...

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When there's nothing left to give..Part Deux Oct 23, 2018

Last week I told the story of Liz’s burnout.

Here’s the story of my burnout.

I was hopeless. I had to keep churning forward & giving more. Why? Because – dammit – that’s what was expected of me!

I had nothing left to give. I was...

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When there's just no more to give - Part One Oct 23, 2018

For today’s story, you need to know 3 things:

  1. Diane, 59-years-old, bullies her sister Liz every day.
  2. Their mom, 92, suffers with dementia & serious physical disabilities.
  3. Liz is an over-giver.

Liz constantly replays the interactions with her sister in...

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The question that banished my burnout Oct 23, 2018

I vowed to myself I’d never teach again. I was burned out.

It wasn’t the under-the-desk texting. [Dude! Put your hands ON the desk!]

It wasn’t the pay. [Shit. I’ve done harder work for no money. See – ‘parenting’.]

It...

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Why you can be right - or happy! Oct 23, 2018

Twelve-weeks pregnant, I stood there with my mouth agape.  What my brother-in-law said had knocked me over.

I was caught up in the throes of telling an obviously entertaining and compelling story – definitely snarky, probably complaining, certainly...

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The one thing my tween did NOT want to hear... Oct 23, 2018

This morning, I tore up one side of my ten-year-old son. Then tore down the other.

He seethed. I seethed. We shot daggers from our eyes at one another.

We’re firmly implanted in his tween years – and are experiencing some new highs and new lows.

He...

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The couch that suffocated me Oct 23, 2018

In the long, long ago, when I was a high school teacher, I brought incredible energy to my high school students e’ry damn day.

I loved them, my colleagues, and the work. I loved it so hard that I brought a couch into my classroom so my students would have a...

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The big lie about asking for help Oct 23, 2018

Mike sat across from me, stumped by the hypothetical situation I’d put him in.

He’d had ZERO trouble with all the previous situations I’d presented.

“Someone important to you needs care. You think…” How can I help? What do I have...

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