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Have you become the frog?

Oct 23, 2018

A Typical Day:

-Wake up, 3am. Realize I’ve only slept 4 hours, panic. Get pissed.

-Mentally review my to-do list, ensuring I cannot get back to sleep.

-Fall asleep at 5:50am for 45 fitful minutes before the 6:30 alarm.

Grab my phone to open my calendar & see what fresh hell lies before me today.

-Plan how to get all the things done before dragging my ass out of bed.

-Set myself up for defeat because I know I can not get all the things done.

-Race through everything – mentally & physically.

-Snap at the people I love. Feel...

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You don't deserve that reset button

Oct 23, 2018

I lay in bed at 9:30pm as Jack, 10-years-old, waltzes into my room and looks at me with…

Judgment. Sadness and…Concern – but for what?

Hands on his skinny hips, he demands, “Why aren’t you two talking to each other?”

Phone in hand, I am scrolling Facebook. I look over at John, lying next to me, doing the same thing – but on Twitter.

“You guys LOVE each other. You should be TALKING to each other!”

Hmph.

Well, excuse me very much.  But I’m EXHAUSTED! I’m TIRED of talking. I talk all damn...

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What to do when you can't breathe

Oct 23, 2018

I don’t know what I want. All I know is I can’t breathe. I just want to breathe again.

Some variation of this theme shows up in my conversations with clients, friends, and strangers about 5 times a week.

People feel tight. Constricted. Heavy. BUT! BUT!!…It’s the new year!

Aren’t we supposed to feel light, ready for a fresh start? Well, it doesn’t feel fresh. It feels like the same old bullshit we’ve been dealing with forever.

Why isn’t anything different?!

Here’s why: humans are incredible at powering...

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When being nice was bullshit

Oct 23, 2018

The sign on the wall said, “BECAUSE NICE MATTERS”. I’d look at it, groan inwardly, thinking, “Bullshit.”

Being nice is overrated. Why does nice matter?  I literally didn’t believe in being nice. Nice is annoying.   It’s the thing someone says about someone who has  no personality.

“She’s nice.” What does that even MEAN?! It was the worst thing you could say about someone.

Like, that’s the best you could do?? Be nice?

I grew up thinking being smart, funny, or witty was much...

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I'm scattered & frayed - and it's costing me...

Oct 23, 2018

I’m not paying attention lately. And it’s costing me time.

Here’s what it feels like:

I’m constantly five steps ahead in my mind…everywhere. All the time. For every attempt to reign in my  brain, there is another attempt that looks like this:

While driving: This car is filthy & desperately needs a wash. There’s surely an epic line at Delta Sonic. Hmmmm…what day next week I can spare 3 hours to wait in line? –> mentally pick through my schedule, drive right by local, small car wash with no line &...

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I was addicted to asking "How?"

Oct 23, 2018

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When you have to pee, 3 minutes is a loooooong time. That’s how long I stood outside the bathroom at the salon for an appointment I was already late for.

With irritated, irrational thoughts, working myself into a lather.

Then a thought struck: try the door.

Unlocked! Empty bathroom. I rolled my eyes at myself and chuckled.

Classic case of me indulging in irritation. My mind ran away with itself, and I let it happen.

This happens to me when I focus on task completion rather than merely solving for the first step.

I did this in my first business a lot, to...

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Working hard to like my old self

Oct 23, 2018

“Jennifer Grimm Liddy is…

  • Tired of the snow.
  •  Sick of my two-year-old whining.
  •  DONE having to make dinner every night.

Remember when Facebook first came out, it prompted you to post something in that manner?

Jennifer Grimm Liddy is ___________. 

Damn you, TimeHop!  Thanks to the wonder of this little app, I’m not only reminded of how much BETTER Facebook has gotten…I’m also reminded how much I dislike my 8-year-ago-self.

In my posts, I [mostly] complained! 

Ugh!   I read these little...

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Your brand new planner will not save you

Oct 23, 2018

 

I felt frazzled, scattered, chaotic, tired, overwhelmed, frustrated.

I needed to “get my shit together”. Time was my worst enemy & made me feel like…

  • A failure because I lost the race every day.
  • A hopeless mess because I never accomplished anything.
  • An oppressed slave to my to-do list.

I was tired of the effort it was taking.

I bought new planners. New calendars. New journals.

I hoped that a clean, new SYSTEM would miraculously help me manage my time.

Oh, man. I wish it were that easy. I’ve learned that it doesn’t...

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Happy Effing New Year!

Oct 23, 2018

Written January 1, 2018

Do you remember your 2017 Resolution?

Me neither. Mine was likely something about giving up sugar, getting in shape, and losing weight. It’s  been the same damn thing for most of my adult life.

Truth is, resolutions are boring.  Goals are boring. They kind of suck the life out of you.

Here’s one of mine:

  • I want to get over my sugar addiction and lose 30 pounds.

Maybe yours are different. Something like,

  • I want to make $30K a month.
  • I want to go get organized.
  • I want to go to yoga 3x/week.

Look at those goals. Or resolutions. Or whatever you...

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The sex talk & breaking patterns

Oct 23, 2018

The front seat of the car seems to be where my 10-year-old son & I have our best, most interesting conversations.

I promise to always be appropriately honest with him, and he hears the truth unflinchingly, always responding with another question to make sure he really understands.

This...

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