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The question that banished my burnout

Oct 23, 2018

I vowed to myself I’d never teach again. I was burned out.

It wasn’t the under-the-desk texting. [Dude! Put your hands ON the desk!]

It wasn’t the pay. [Shit. I’ve done harder work for no money. See – ‘parenting’.]

It wasn’t the administration. [I had great bosses who hired me to do good work – and left me alone to do it.]

Simply: it was grading papers. UGH.

I’d poured gallons of ink onto many shitty papers.

Provided workshops. Asked questions.

Gave feedback and – yes – criticism.


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Why you can be right - or happy!

Oct 23, 2018

Twelve-weeks pregnant, I stood there with my mouth agape.  What my brother-in-law said had knocked me over.

I was caught up in the throes of telling an obviously entertaining and compelling story – definitely snarky, probably complaining, certainly judgy.

Mike had been polite, engaged & listening with a smile on his face.

I ended my story, expecting mutual exasperation. Or chummy horror. Or at the very least, clear & lusty acknowledgement of how I had been undeniably WRONGED, for God’s sake!

But when I ended, he shrugged and said...

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The one thing my tween did NOT want to hear...

Oct 23, 2018

This morning, I tore up one side of my ten-year-old son. Then tore down the other.

He seethed. I seethed. We shot daggers from our eyes at one another.

We’re firmly implanted in his tween years – and are experiencing some new highs and new lows.

He complained strongly about going to camp, so I’d spent the morning oh-so-NOT -gently reminding him of how freaking awesome his life is.

And how entitled he is behaving.

And how tired of his behavior I am.

Something I said about entitlement must’ve struck him because he looked at me and said,...

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The couch that suffocated me

Oct 23, 2018

In the long, long ago, when I was a high school teacher, I brought incredible energy to my high school students e’ry damn day.

I loved them, my colleagues, and the work. I loved it so hard that I brought a couch into my classroom so my students would have a soft place to land during low moments and tough times.

And each day, I’d bring an oppressive bag of grading home with me because during my work day there was no time to breathe.

What was depriving me of oxygen?

  • Allison hated her mother, and her mother obviously hated her.
  • Tyler found reading so...
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The big lie about asking for help

Oct 23, 2018

Mike sat across from me, stumped by the hypothetical situation I’d put him in.

He’d had ZERO trouble with all the previous situations I’d presented.

“Someone important to you needs care. You think…” How can I help? What do I have to reschedule to make it happen?

“You’re late and there’s an accident. You think…” I wonder if everyone is ok. I’d probably pull over & see if I could help.

“Your schedule is full. You think…” I have to figure out how to make time with my...

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How she went from zero to $50K to $100K in 60 short minutes!

Oct 23, 2018

Today a client said something she didn’t mean to say out loud. Then she clamped her hand over her mouth.

It came out of her mouth and made her gasp, “Where the hell did that come from?!”

She had merely said, “I want to make $50,000 a year from my business.”

Here’s some background: she’s currently in the red in her business, so in her mind making that much money seems like just an airy dream, completely intangible. Ridiculous.

“Why not?”, I asked her. She didn’t have a good answer.

They real WHY NOT is...

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When you forget to ask yourself this one little thing...

Oct 23, 2018

A fantastically fierce colleague of mine is writing a book, building her business, and developing her community. She helps women discover their voices and step into leadership. She is a shark: moving constantly and a force to reckon with.

Her energy is endless. Others marvel at what she gets done. Some are in awe of her intense determination. Nothing stops her.

Until it does. Then she hits a wall.

As we wrote together last week, there was a sense of defeat surrounding her. A kind of lull in energy.  A lack of clarity that was very unlike her.

I asked,...

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I know I'm smarter than this. How'd I get here again?

Oct 23, 2018

You want something. I just know it.

  • You’ve been trying to lose weight for years now.
  • You’re saying you want to be a more present parent.
  • You’ve been fantasizing about a different career.
  • You’re plotting that perfect relationship.

Then, suddenly, BAM! You find yourself in the middle of a shit storm moving you in exactly the opposite direction you said you wanted!

WTH? How’d you get there?


We all get wedged exactly where we said we didn’t want to be. If you think you’re alone in suffering with this, let me...

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Why your magical dust is needed in the world

Oct 23, 2018

Your Magical Dust is Needed

When women create money doing the things they LOVE, the world becomes a better place.

When they don’t have to think things like, I can’t afford it.  I have to ask my husband.

Or, I want that, but I can’t have it.  We need that, but we can’t have it.

That shit is dis-empowering. I only realized it AFTER I started making my own money doing something I love.

But it’s scary to believe you can make money doing the thing you love.

Doing scary things is a challenge for me every day. ...

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Do You Know About the Awful Before the Awesome?

Oct 17, 2018

Sometimes I meet someone thin and think, “She has no idea what it feels like to be overweight. She doesn’t get me at all.

Have you ever done this?

Like, at the lowest point in your marriage you meet a woman happy in her relationship and think, “She has no idea what it feels like to be miserable.”

Or, you’re failing particularly hard at an endeavor when you meet a successful woman. You think, “She’s never been broke or confused a day in her damn life.”

The problem is, when we meet someone living their awesomeness,...

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